"Because we live in such a monogamy-centered society, it makes sense that many people can only conceive of non-monogamy in what ultimately still amounts to monogamous terms. There is a common misconception that a polyamorous relationship is really no different from an open-relationship agreement: one committed couple, with some lighthearted fun on the side. But the word “polyamory,” by definition, means loving more than one. Many of us have deeply committed relationships with more than one partner, with no hierarchy among them and no core “couple” at the heart of it all. To me, this notion that there must be one more important relationship, one true love, feels a lot like people looking at same-sex couples and thinking that one person must be the “man” in the relationship and the other must be the “woman.” After all, both of these misunderstandings result from people trying to graft their normative conceptions of love and relationships onto people who are partnering in non-normative ways. It seems that it is somewhat easy for many people to acknowledge that humans are capable of loving one person and still enjoying sex with others (assuming, of course, that the terms of their relationship make such behavior acceptable). But it is much harder for people to think outside the fairy-tale notion of “the one” and imagine that it might be possible to actually romantically love more than one person simultaneously."
Polyamorous Relationships Are About More Than Just Couples | Angi Becker Stevens (via hobbitkaiju)
Polyamorous relationships are becoming a more and more attractive option, tbh, but I also question my motivation.
Sometimes I feel like my string of failed relationships and unfaithful/dishonest partners means I’m too much to handle for one person, or that I’m simply not good enough, and that’s a really toxic idea that I want to get rid of, but it’s very hard.
I feel like I really need to be honest with myself about why I might want to try out non-monogamy. I want it to be for good reasons, that are rooted in as much self-love as I can manage.
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